No one begins a surrogacy journey expecting loss, but sometimes, heartbreak becomes part of the story. A surrogate miscarriage is one of the most emotionally complex experiences a woman can face.
If you’re navigating this path or preparing for the “what ifs”—please know this: you are not alone, and you are not to blame. At American Surrogacy, we believe that real support means showing up for the hardest parts of the journey, not just the milestones.
If you’re navigating a surrogate miscarriage or simply want to know you’ll be supported no matter what, our team is here for you. Reach out to a surrogacy specialist today for support that puts your wellbeing first.
What Happens if You Miscarry During Surrogacy?
A surrogate miscarriage can be a heartbreaking and overwhelming experience, but surrogates are never expected to face it alone.
When a miscarriage occurs, the first step is medical care. Your OB-GYN or fertility clinic will provide the necessary procedures, testing, and follow-up to ensure your health and safety.
Legally, your surrogacy contract outlines what happens in this situation, including how intended parents are informed and how compensation is handled. Emotionally, the agency becomes your lifeline.
The emotional and physical recovery timeline varies, and we honor each surrogate’s unique path forward with unwavering support.
Is It My Fault? What Every Surrogate Needs to Know About Miscarriage
One of the most painful myths surrounding a surrogate miscarriage is the belief that the surrogate somehow did something wrong.
In reality, miscarriages are common and usually caused by chromosomal or developmental issues that are entirely out of anyone’s control.
At American Surrogacy, we ensure that our surrogates understand from the beginning that they are never to blame if a loss occurs. Our agency provides ongoing emotional support, including access to therapists who specialize in reproductive grief.
We help surrogates navigate feelings of guilt, shame, or confusion with empathy and clinical clarity. Surrogacy is built on courage and generosity. Even in the face of loss, those qualities remain deeply respected and protected.
What Support Do Surrogates Receive After a Pregnancy Loss?
After a surrogate miscarriage, emotional healing and personal care become the top priorities and with American Surrogacy, that support is both immediate and ongoing.
Our surrogates are offered access to licensed mental health professionals who specialize in reproductive loss, so they have a safe, confidential space to process their grief.
We also provide continued case management support, regular check-ins from our team and optional participation in surrogate support groups where shared experiences create comfort and connection.
Every surrogate is different, and so is every healing journey. That’s why our support is never one-size-fits-all. Whether you want space, conversation or ongoing resources, American Surrogacy adapts to your needs, because you deserve to be supported fully, not just medically, but emotionally, too.
Emotional Support Resources After a Surrogacy Loss
Whether you need someone to talk to immediately or prefer quiet reflection with the option to reach out later, we respect your process.
That’s why we connect our surrogates with licensed counselors and support groups while providing ongoing agency communication tailored to your needs.
You can also explore the virtual support groups and forums below.
- Empty Arms Bereavement Support: A free support group for those who have experience a miscarriage or early pregnancy loss. All meeting are through Zoom.
- Rachel’s Gift: Free virtual support groups for those who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirths and infant loss.
- r/Miscarriage: A community for those who have experienced miscarriage to talk about their loss and seek peer support.
- r/PregnancyAfterLoss: A subreddit for those who become pregnant after miscarriage or infant loss.
Why Agency Support Matters During a Surrogate Miscarriage
In the wake of a surrogate miscarriage, having the right agency by your side isn’t just helpful—it’s everything. The emotional, medical, and logistical challenges that follow a pregnancy loss can feel overwhelming.
That’s why surrogates who partner with American Surrogacy receive wraparound care designed to meet every need: emotional counseling, clear communication protocols, legal clarity and heartfelt check-ins that don’t stop after the initial crisis fades.
Without an experienced, empathetic agency, surrogates may be left to navigate grief, legalities, or conversations with intended parents on their own. But with American Surrogacy, you are never alone. We advocate for you every step of the way.
Choosing the right agency means choosing a team that stands beside you when things don’t go as planned—and that’s when it matters most.
What the Surrogacy Contract Says About Miscarriage
Every surrogacy journey begins with a carefully crafted legal agreement and that includes planning for difficult moments like a surrogate miscarriage.
Your contract outlines what happens in the event of a pregnancy loss, including how compensation is handled, who is responsible for medical costs, and how communication with intended parents is managed. This legal clarity is essential: it protects you emotionally and financially during a vulnerable time.
Our agency works closely with experienced surrogacy attorneys to ensure that every surrogate’s rights, health and peace of mind are prioritized in the contract. Knowing that you’re protected allows you to focus on healing, not logistics and reinforces that your agency is with you, every step of the way.
Learn more about surrogacy contracts.
Do Surrogates Get Paid if They Miscarry?
Yes, in most cases, you are compensated up until the miscarriage occurs.
Surrogate miscarriage does not typically negate earned payments, and any escrowed funds are managed per the terms of your contract. American Surrogacy ensures transparency and fairness in all financial matters, so you can focus on recovery without added stress.
Just as with the previous pregnancy, if you and the intended parents decide to try again after your doctor has medically cleared you to do so, payments will resume once a pregnancy is confirmed. You will still receive the full amount of compensation outlined in your contract.
How Intended Parents Are Involved When a Surrogate Miscarriage Occurs
One of the hardest parts of a surrogate miscarriage is the emotional weight of telling the intended parents. You might worry about their reaction or feel like you let them down.
While intended parents may feel deeply saddened, surrogates need to know: they are not to blame. Miscarriage is no one’s fault. Intended parents often respond with empathy, gratitude and heartbreak rather than anger.
Your surrogacy specialist can provide sensitive mediation and emotional support to help all sides navigate this complex moment. Our agency plays a key role in helping surrogates and intended parents communicate with clarity and care, while also respecting each individual’s grieving process.
Surrogates are never left to carry the emotional weight or explain difficult news alone. We also help intended parents process their grief while reinforcing their continued respect for the surrogate’s bravery and effort.
In many cases, these shared hardships actually strengthen the bond between surrogate and family. With the right emotional support, healing happens—together, not apart.
Can I Be a Surrogate Again After a Miscarriage?
Experiencing a surrogate miscarriage doesn’t automatically disqualify you from future journeys. After medical clearance from your doctor and a recovery period, many surrogates go on to complete successful pregnancies.
American Surrogacy will support you in making a decision that aligns with your emotional readiness and health. Some surrogates choose to try again; others decide their journey ends here—either path is honored.
How Common is Miscarriage in Surrogacy?
It might surprise you to learn that miscarriage, including surrogate miscarriage, is relatively common. It affects about 10-20% of all pregnancies. Even when the embryo is healthy, and everything seems perfect, miscarriage can still happen.
Age, embryo quality, and other health factors can play a role, but sometimes there’s simply no clear reason. Knowing this doesn’t make the loss easier, but it can help you release some of the self-blame and understand that this experience is sadly a part of many women’s reproductive journeys.
How American Surrogacy Supports You Through Every Step
Experiencing a surrogate miscarriage is an emotionally difficult and deeply personal event. At American Surrogacy, our priority is ensuring that no surrogate ever faces that pain alone.
When a miscarriage occurs, our team offers emotional support, licensed counseling referrals, and guidance through next steps.
Surrogates are offered access to mental health professionals experienced in reproductive loss, as well as ongoing check-ins from our staff. We also facilitate peer support networks so surrogates can connect with others who’ve walked a similar path.
Importantly, every step is guided by empathy, not pressure or blame. Surrogacy is a journey that comes with joy and, sometimes, loss. We’re here for all of it, with full-circle care that honors your experience and well-being.
You Don’t Have to Face This Alone
Loss is never easy, but with the right agency, you’ll never walk through it unsupported. At American Surrogacy, we care for every aspect of yourself that you’ve invested in this journey: heart, body and mind. If you’re ready to learn more or just need someone to listen, we’re here.
Connect with a specialist today by filling out our quick form.