For many trans men, IVF and gender dysphoria often intersect when hormone therapy must be paused, or when fertility procedures trigger physical changes and clinical experiences that feel misaligned with one’s identity.
Whether you’re early in your transition or already on testosterone, you deserve options that support your well-being, not just your biological goals.
The path is yours to define—we’re here to walk it with you. Contact us today to learn more about how surrogacy can be a self-affirming option to grow your family.
This guide is here to help you understand what to expect from IVF as a trans masculine parent and how surrogacy and egg donation can help lessen the burden of gender dysphoria.
Can IVF Cause Gender Dysphoria?
Yes, IVF and gender dysphoria often intersect for trans men.
Stopping testosterone for egg retrieval can trigger the return of unwanted physical changes, while procedures like ultrasounds and hormone injections may intensify dysphoria, especially in gendered medical settings.
For many, the experience can feel emotionally disorienting—but with affirming providers and support, IVF is still possible.
Learn more about the egg retrieval process for IVF and surrogacy.
Options Beyond Traditional IVF: How Surrogacy Can Support Trans Masculine Parents
For many trans men, IVF and gender dysphoria are deeply intertwined. Creating embryos—whether for personal IVF or surrogacy—still requires egg retrieval and a temporary pause in testosterone, which can trigger significant physical and emotional discomfort.
The process may involve invasive procedures and time spent in clinical settings that feel misaligned with one’s identity.
Depending on your needs and comfort level, there are affirming paths forward:
- Donor egg IVF: You might consider using donor eggs, which allows you to avoid the dysphoria associated with hormone stimulation and retrieval while still building a family through IVF.
- Surrogacy: If you’re comfortable with egg retrieval but not with pregnancy, surrogacy may be an ideal fit, allowing you to create embryos with your own eggs while a surrogate carries the pregnancy.
- Donor egg surrogacy: If you want to avoid both the IVF process and pregnancy, donor egg surrogacy removes both the physical and psychological stressors while still allowing you to become a parent.
At American Surrogacy, we understand that every path to parenthood is personal. We’re here to help you explore your options with care, clarity, and compassion—so you can make the decision that’s right for you.
Need help deciding what feels right? Reach out today to explore paths that align with your emotional well-being, family goals and identity.
Should You Pause Testosterone for IVF? What to Know
If you intend to use your own eggs for IVF or surrogacy, most fertility clinics require trans men to pause testosterone to support a successful egg retrieval process.
Pausing HRT, often for several weeks, can lead to the return of physical traits tied to one’s assigned sex at birth, which may intensify IVF and gender dysphoria symptoms.
Knowing what to expect can make a major difference. Emotional shifts, body changes and discomfort with medical procedures are common—but they’re not unmanageable.
Working with affirming providers and preparing mentally and physically ahead of time can help ease this process.
Talking to Your Clinic: How to Advocate for Gender-Affirming Fertility Care
Navigating IVF and gender dysphoria starts with choosing a clinic that respects your identity. Not all fertility providers are experienced in working with trans men, and many environments can unintentionally trigger dysphoria through misgendering, invasive procedures or lack of inclusive language.
Before starting treatment, ask about the clinic’s experience with LGBTQ+ patients, their approach to trauma-informed care, and whether staff are trained in gender-affirming practices. Your emotional well-being matters as much as your medical outcome.
At American Surrogacy, we help intended parents connect with supportive clinics that prioritize comfort, respect and affirming care—because every step of your journey should feel like it belongs to you.
Need help finding a gender-affirming fertility provider? Reach out to start your journey with support you can trust.
When IVF Isn’t Right: Why Some Trans Men Choose Surrogacy First
For some trans men, IVF and gender dysphoria are too closely linked to pursue comfortably. The idea of stopping HRT, undergoing invasive procedures, or facing a pregnancy that feels misaligned with their identity can be overwhelming.
In these cases, surrogacy isn’t a last resort, it’s a deliberate, affirming choice.
Surrogacy offers a path to biological parenthood without compromising emotional safety. At American Surrogacy, we support trans intended parents in choosing what feels right for them whether that means IVF or surrogacy.
Fertility Planning for Trans Men Considering Surrogacy: Step-by-Step Guide
If you’re exploring surrogacy as a path to parenthood, here’s what you need to know, especially when navigating IVF and gender dysphoria along the way:
Step 1: Decide If You Want a Genetic Connection
Surrogacy can allow you to have a biological child using your own eggs. If you haven’t started testosterone, egg retrieval may be easier to schedule without interruption.
Step 2: Consider Your HRT Timeline
If you haven’t started testosterone yet, freezing your eggs now may reduce the risk of unsuccessful egg retrieval, and may allow you to avoid the need to pause HRT later.
If you’re already on HRT, plan for a pause—often 1–3 months—to allow your body to resume egg production.
Step 3: Coordinate With a Fertility Clinic
Schedule an initial consult with a clinic to evaluate your fertility and discuss egg retrieval logistics.
Step 4: Prepare for IVF and Gender Dysphoria
The IVF process includes hormone injections and an invasive procedure. If pausing HRT, undergoing ovarian stimulation or completing the egg retrieval process feels too dysphoric, or is unsuccessful, egg donation remains a viable and affirming alternative.
Step 5: Choose a Surrogacy Agency That Affirms You
Partner with an agency (like American Surrogacy) that understands the needs of trans intended parents. Once you have embryos ready, we can match you with a surrogate who is excited to work with you and your partner.
Your Next Step: Compassionate, Personalized Support
Whether you’re early in your transition, already managing IVF and gender dysphoria, or considering surrogacy as a more affirming option, your path to parenthood deserves care and support.
At American Surrogacy, we guide LGBTQ+ intended parents through every step—with trusted clinics, inclusive professionals and surrogates who honor your identity and goals.
You’re not alone in this journey and you don’t have to navigate it without a team that understands.
Connect with a surrogacy specialist today to explore the options that align with your identity, timeline and dreams of building a family.
Check out our surrogacy programs for LGBT parents.