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How Will My Surrogacy Agency Support Unexpected Journey Complications?

From screening to refunds: How American Surrogacy shields intended parents from surrogacy’s unexpected challenges.

The surrogacy journey represents hope, dreams, and the promise of finally holding your baby. But for many intended parents, excitement comes with worry: “What if something goes wrong? What if our surrogate changes her mind? What if we run out of embryos?”

These concerns are natural, and they’re exactly why choosing the right surrogacy agency matters more than you might realize.

Our structured programs mean you don’t have to navigate these uncertainties alone. We’ve designed our Foundation and Limited Risk Programs to protect your investment, your timeline, and your peace of mind through comprehensive screening, unlimited re-matching, and built-in refund protections.

Get the support and protection you deserve. Fill out our form today to learn how American Surrogacy safeguards your family-building journey.

Is There Surrogacy Agency Support for Unexpected Journey Complications?

Yes there is! This support can make the difference between a successful journey and a devastating financial loss.

Many intended parents assume that surrogacy complications are rare enough that they don’t need to worry about protection. The reality is that while serious complications aren’t common, they do happen.

Failed embryo transfers, surrogates who can’t continue their journey, medical complications, and legal challenges can all derail an unprotected surrogacy arrangement.

That’s where our experience makes all the difference. With decades of expertise, proven protocols, and comprehensive financial protections, we ensure you never have to navigate complications on your own.

What Are Unexpected Complications that Might Occur During Surrogacy?

Understanding potential complications helps you prepare and shows you why professional agency support matters.

  • Embryo Transfer Challenges: Not every embryo transfer results in pregnancy. While IVF success rates continue to improve, some intended parents face multiple failed transfers, depleting their embryo supply faster than expected.
  • Surrogate-Related Issues: Sometimes a surrogate who seemed perfect during initial meetings realizes she can’t continue the journey. This might happen due to medical complications discovered during screening, family circumstances, or simply changing her mind about moving forward.
  • Medical Complications During Pregnancy: Pregnancy complications can affect both the baby’s health and the surrogate’s ability to continue. While these situations are carefully managed by medical professionals, they can impact timelines and require additional support.
  • Legal and Contractual Challenges: Surrogacy laws vary by state, and navigating surrogacy contracts and legal requirements can become complex if unexpected situations arise.

These complications, while challenging, are not impossible when you have the right support system. At American Surrogacy, we have successfully helped thousands of families navigate unexpected challenges over our years of experience.

How Pre-Screening Protects Intended Parents

The best way to handle surrogacy complications is to prevent them. That’s where comprehensive pre-screening becomes your most valuable protection.

At American Surrogacy, we maintain rigorous screening standards for potential surrogates. Our multi-step process evaluates medical history, psychological readiness, financial stability, and personal circumstances long before any matching occurs.

We only work with highly-qualified surrogates who have demonstrated their commitment to the surrogacy process. We make sure that every surrogate who enters our program is prepared for the journey ahead.

How Pre-Screening Protects Your Time

Time matters when you’re building your family. Every delayed match, every failed arrangement, every restart adds months to your wait.

Our comprehensive surrogate screening process allows for quick, confident matching because the hard work of verification happens upfront.

Instead of spending weeks or months getting to know a potential surrogate only to discover she isn’t ready, you’re matched with women who have already proven their readiness.

This pre-screening approach significantly reduces failed matching attempts, helping you become a parent faster than you might with agencies that skip thorough vetting.

How Pre-Screening Protects Your Money

Every failed match costs money, sometimes significant amounts. When a surrogate arrangement falls through after contracts are signed, legal fees are paid, and medical preparations have begun, those costs add up quickly.

By ensuring surrogates are fully screened before matching, American Surrogacy dramatically reduces the likelihood of costly false starts. You’re not paying for legal work, medical procedures, and administrative costs multiple times due to inadequate screening.

Our pre-screening investment protects your financial investment throughout your entire journey.

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Our Surrogacy Programs with Payment Protection

At American Surrogacy, we offer two programs specifically designed with built-in financial protection: our Foundation Program and Limited Risk Program. Both programs are built around protecting intended parents from the unexpected.

Unlimited Matching: Your Journey Won’t End If a Match Falls Through

Our Limited Risk Program includes unlimited matching at no extra cost if a surrogate backs out or can’t move forward with the arrangement.

Think about what this means: If your first match doesn’t work out for any reason, you don’t start over financially. You don’t pay additional matching fees. You don’t worry about whether you can afford to try again. Our full-service programs ensure that a single setback doesn’t end your journey to parenthood.

This unlimited matching protection provides peace of mind knowing that you’re covered no matter how many attempts it takes to find the right surrogate for your family.

Protect Your Journey to Parenthood with Our Limited Risk Program

Refund Protections: What Happens If You Run Out of Embryos

Both our Limited Risk Program and Foundation Program include refund protections if your journey is unsuccessful and you have no embryos remaining.

This protection acknowledges a difficult reality: sometimes, despite everyone’s best efforts, a surrogacy journey doesn’t result in a baby. While this outcome is rare, it happens. When it does, you shouldn’t face complete financial loss on top of emotional disappointment.

Our refund protections ensure that if you’ve exhausted your embryos without achieving pregnancy, you’ll receive a significant portion of your program fees back. This financial protection can help you explore other family-building options or restart your surrogacy journey when you’re ready.

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Protecting Families During the SEAM Breach

Our commitment to protecting intended parents extends beyond our standard program protections. When the SEAM breach occurred affecting trust account funds across multiple agencies, we went above and beyond contractual obligations.

We safeguard our clients’ funds by paying from our own reserves, ensuring that intended parents don’t suffer financial losses due to circumstances outside their control. We are committed to protecting the families we serve.

With decades of experience successfully managing client financing between our two agencies, we have proven that we’ll stand behind our intended parents when unexpected industry challenges arise.

Why Working With an Agency is Safer Than Going Independent

The protections offered by professional agencies like ours simply don’t exist in independent surrogacy arrangements, and the financial risks can be devastating.

Independent surrogacy might seem more affordable upfront, but consider what you’re risking:

  • No professional screening: You’re responsible for evaluating a surrogate’s medical, psychological, and financial readiness entirely on your own.
  • No backup plans: If your arrangement falls through, you start completely over with no support system.
  • No financial protection: Every dollar spent is at risk if complications arise.
  • Legal vulnerability: Without professional guidance, you might miss critical legal protections.

Even if you’ve already found a potential surrogate independently, our Independent Program allows you to continue your journey with professional guidance and safety measures in place.

The question isn’t whether you can handle surrogacy independently. It’s whether you should take on unnecessary risks when professional protection is available.

Finding Hope After IVF Failures

Many intended parents considering surrogacy have already experienced the heartbreak of failed IVF cycles. You might wonder whether surrogacy will just lead to more disappointment.

Here’s what you need to know: surrogacy often succeeds where traditional IVF has failed because it removes many of the factors that contributed to your previous challenges.

Gestational surrogacy allows you to use your own genetic material while bypassing potential uterine factors that may have prevented successful implantation or pregnancy maintenance.

Working with American Surrogacy means your embryos will be transferred to a thoroughly screened surrogate who has demonstrated her ability to carry pregnancies successfully.

Combined with our program protections, this significantly improves your chances of finally achieving the pregnancy you’ve been working toward.

Your IVF struggles don’t predict your surrogacy success, especially when you have professional support guiding your journey.

Taking the Next Step with American Surrogacy

The surrogacy journey doesn’t have to feel overwhelming when you have the right support and protection. Our Foundation and Limited Risk Programs are designed specifically to address the “what if” concerns that keep intended parents awake at night.

Our comprehensive approach includes:

  • Rigorous pre-screening that protects your time and money
  • Unlimited matching to ensure setbacks don’t end your journey
  • Refund protections if your journey doesn’t result in pregnancy
  • Decades of experience managing complex situations
  • Financial stability proven through industry challenges

You’ve already shown incredible strength and determination in your journey to parenthood. Now it’s time to partner with an agency that matches your commitment with professional expertise and genuine protection.

Fill out our form today to speak with a surrogacy specialist about how our protective programs can support your journey to parenthood. Let us help you get there safely.

Does American Surrogacy Accept Shipped Frozen Embryos?

American Surrogacy accepts shipped frozen embryos from any clinic. Learn how we coordinate the process, costs, and safety of embryo transport.

Yes, American Surrogacy routinely works with embryos shipped from fertility clinics across the United States and internationally.

This support eliminates one of the biggest concerns intended parents face when moving from IVF to surrogacy. You don’t need to start over, create new embryos, or abandon the investment you’ve already made in your fertility journey.

Get the support you need for your embryo shipping process. Contact us today to speak with a surrogacy specialist about coordinating your existing embryos with a qualified surrogate.

Why You May Not Even Need to Ship Your Frozen Embryos

Before diving into the shipping process, it’s worth noting that many intended parents can avoid embryo shipping altogether.

Most surrogates working with American Surrogacy are willing and able to travel to your fertility clinic for the embryo transfer procedure.

Benefits of Surrogate Travel to Your Clinic

This approach often proves easier, safer, and less stressful than shipping frozen embryos. When your surrogate travels to your clinic, you eliminate logistical concerns about temperature control, transit time, and coordinating between multiple facilities.

Your embryos stay exactly where they are, in the storage facility you already trust.

Travel arrangements are typically coordinated by our team, and many intended parents find this creates a meaningful bonding opportunity with their surrogate. The transfer takes place in familiar surroundings with your established medical team, providing additional peace of mind during this crucial step.

When Embryo Shipping Becomes Necessary

However, we understand that surrogate travel isn’t always practical due to medical protocols, clinic preferences, or other circumstances.

When shipping becomes necessary, we have extensive experience coordinating successful embryo transfers using shipped embryos through our comprehensive embryo shipping guides.

Do I Need to Create New Embryos for Surrogacy? Or Can I Use the Ones I Have?

You can absolutely use your existing frozen embryos for surrogacy. This is one of the most common questions we hear from intended parents, and the answer provides significant relief both emotionally and financially.

Many of our intended parents come to surrogacy after experiencing multiple IVF failures or pregnancy complications. The embryos you’ve already created represent a substantial investment of time, money, and emotional energy.

Surrogacy embryo transfer success rates range from 60-70% per transfer, compared to traditional IVF rates of 40-50% for women under 35, declining to just 10-15% for women over 40.

Surrogacy’s higher success comes from rigorous surrogate screening that ensures optimal uterine health, proven pregnancy history, and carefully controlled hormonal environments.

Timeline Benefits of Using Existing Embryos

Using existing embryos can also accelerate your surrogacy timeline. Instead of beginning with ovarian stimulation, egg retrieval, and fertilization, you can move directly to matching with a surrogate and preparing for transfer. This can potentially cut months off your journey to parenthood.

Research shows that women with three embryos have a 95% chance of pregnancy, making your existing embryos a valuable asset for your surrogacy journey.

What Your Clinic Needs to Provide

Your fertility clinic will need to release your embryos along with detailed documentation, including:

  • Embryo quality grades and development stages
  • Genetic testing results (if applicable)
  • Storage requirements and freezing protocols
  • Complete medical history and lab work

Our team coordinates with both your original clinic and your surrogate’s clinic to ensure all documentation and medical records are properly transferred along with your embryos.

Is Embryo Shipping Safe?

Embryo shipping has an excellent safety record when performed by specialized cryogenic transport companies. Your embryos are stored in specialized tanks called cryoshippers or dry shippers that maintain consistent ultra-low temperatures without requiring external power sources.

How Embryos Stay Protected During Transport

These specialized containers offer multiple layers of protection:

  • Liquid nitrogen maintains temperatures at -196°C (-320°F) throughout transport
  • Containers maintain temperature for 7-10 days, providing significant safety margins
  • Professional companies provide detailed chain of custody documentation
  • Real-time temperature monitoring and tracking systems ensure constant oversight
  • Insurance coverage specifically protects reproductive tissue during transport

Properly shipped embryos maintain the same survival rates as those that never leave their original storage facility. Your embryos are treated as critical medical cargo throughout transport, with freezing and thawing having far more impact on viability than shipping.

We always recommend discussing the shipping process with your fertility clinic and reproductive endocrinologist for guidance specific to your embryos’ characteristics.

If you’re considering how many embryos to use for surrogacy or exploring surrogacy with only one embryo left, our specialists can help you develop the best strategy.

From Clinic to Surrogate: How the Embryo Shipping Process Works

The embryo shipping process involves careful coordination between multiple parties, but at American Surrogacy, we manage these logistics so you don’t have to navigate them alone.

Step 1: Documentation and Release

Your original fertility clinic prepares release forms and detailed embryo information, including quality grades, genetic testing results, and storage requirements. You’ll sign consent forms authorizing the transfer and release of your embryos.

Step 2: Receiving Clinic Coordination

Your surrogate’s fertility clinic provides specific shipping instructions, including preferred shipping companies, arrival timing, and any special requirements. We coordinate between both clinics to ensure compatibility and proper preparation.

Step 3: Professional Shipping Arrangement

A specialized reproductive tissue transport company picks up your embryos in a temperature-controlled cryogenic container. These companies are specifically licensed and insured for embryo transport, not general medical courier services.

Step 4: Real-Time Tracking

Throughout transport, the shipping company provides tracking information and temperature monitoring. Many services offer real-time alerts and updates so all parties know exactly where embryos are located.

Step 5: Safe Arrival and Verification

The receiving clinic confirms embryo arrival, verifies the integrity of the shipment, and places embryos in their storage facility. Both clinics document the successful transfer for your records.

This entire process typically takes 1-3 days for domestic shipments and 2-10 days for international transport, depending on the origin and destination countries. Our coordination team manages communications between all parties and keeps you informed throughout the process.

Embryo Shipping Costs and Logistics: What Intended Parents Should Expect

Embryo shipping costs typically range from $1,000 to $3,000 for domestic shipments within the United States, depending on distance, urgency, and specific transport requirements.

International shipping costs are significantly higher, generally ranging from $3,000-$8,000 or more depending on the origin country and service level.

For more detailed information about embryo shipping costs, our specialists can provide specific estimates based on your situation.

These costs cover specialized cryogenic containers, professional handling, insurance coverage, and documentation services.

While it represents an additional expense, most intended parents find the cost manageable compared to creating new embryos or repeating IVF cycles.

Additional Fees to Consider

Beyond shipping costs, you may encounter:

  • Documentation fees from your original clinic (typically $200-500)
  • Receiving fees from your surrogate’s clinic (usually $300-600)
  • Storage fees if embryos arrive before your surrogate is ready for transfer
  • Rush shipping surcharges for expedited services

Timing coordination is essential for cost management. Rush shipping or expedited services significantly increase expenses, so planning ahead when possible helps control costs.

Our team works with you to identify the optimal shipping window based on your surrogate’s cycle and clinic availability.

Financial Protection AvailableThrough our Programs

Many intended parents find it helpful to factor shipping costs into their overall surrogacy budget. We offer three comprehensive program options to fit different needs and financial situations:

  • Foundation Program: If your journey ends without a baby and you have no embryos left, some fees will be refunded.
  • Limited Risk Program: In addition to available refunds if a journey doesn’t work out, you also have access to comprehensive services, including unlimited matching at no extra cost.

For those seeking additional financing support, companies like Sunfish offer fertility loans that can cover embryo shipping and related expenses as part of comprehensive surrogacy financing packages.

How American Surrogacy Supports Intended Parents Through This Process

We bring years of experience coordinating embryo shipments for intended parents from around the world.

Our team understands the emotional weight of entrusting your embryos to a shipping process and provides comprehensive support throughout, including our detailed guide to shipping frozen embryos.

Clinic Coordination Expertise

We maintain relationships with fertility clinics nationwide and understand their specific requirements for embryo receipt and storage.

This experience helps us identify potential logistical issues early and resolve them before they impact your timeline.

Vendor Network Management

Our team works with proven embryo shipping companies and can recommend services based on your specific needs, location, and budget.

You won’t need to research and vet shipping companies yourself because we handle all vendor coordination.

Communication Bridge

Throughout the shipping process, we serve as a central communication hub between you, your original clinic, your surrogate’s clinic, and the shipping company. You’ll receive regular updates without needing to manage multiple points of contact.

If Unexpected Issues Come Up

If unexpected issues arise during shipping, our team provides immediate problem-solving support. Weather delays, documentation problems, clinic scheduling conflicts—we’ve handled various shipping challenges and know how to resolve them quickly.

Beyond logistics, we understand the anxiety many intended parents feel about shipping embryos. Our team provides emotional support and reassurance throughout the process, helping you feel confident in your decision.

Program Options and Financial Protection

Our programs include full-service support and independent program options with embryo shipping coordination as part of our comprehensive services.

Whichever program you select, we’ll manage all embryo shipping logistics so you can focus on your approaching parenthood. Our financial protection programs safeguard your investment from the moment your embryos leave storage until they arrive at your surrogate’s clinic.

Contact us today to discuss your shipping coordination needs and take the next step toward your journey to parenthood. 

Your existing embryos represent the foundation of your future family, and we’re here to ensure they reach your surrogate safely and efficiently.


Should My Surrogate Be Vaccinated for COVID? What Intended Parents Need to Know

Learn why some intended parents prefer a surrogate who has received the COVID vaccine—and how to find one who aligns with your values.

Your surrogacy journey is deeply personal—and every detail matters when it comes to protecting your growing family.

In today’s world, health and safety are more important than ever, which is why many intended parents are wondering if they should look for a surrogate who has received the COVID-19 vaccine.

If vaccination is part of your vision for a safe and supported surrogacy experience, we can help you find a surrogate who aligns with your priorities—without delaying your timeline. Fill out our form today.

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider when making medical decisions related to COVID or vaccination.

Should You Choose a Surrogate Who Has Received the COVID Vaccine?

Choosing a surrogate who has received the COVID vaccine is a personal decision, and one that many intended parents make for peace of mind.

While not medically required, vaccination can offer an added layer of reassurance and may align with guidance from medical professionals and fertility clinics.

It’s not about right or wrong—it’s about what feels right for your family. If this is something that matters to you, American Surrogacy can help you find a surrogate whose health choices reflect your preferences.

Is It Safe to Work With a Surrogate Who Isn’t Vaccinated Against COVID?

Medical experts, including the CDC and ACOG (American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists), have strongly recommended COVID-19 vaccination for pregnant women and those planning to become pregnant.

These recommendations extend to gestational surrogates, who undergo intensive health screening and are responsible for carrying a pregnancy on behalf of someone else.

While it’s not illegal or medically disqualifying for a surrogate to be unvaccinated, there may be increased risks. Pregnancy itself can heighten vulnerability to severe complications from COVID-19.

Choosing a surrogate who has received the COVID vaccine can offer added peace of mind and protection for all parties involved.

Understanding Vaccine Policies in Surrogacy

Vaccination policies vary by agency and clinic. At American Surrogacy, we do not mandate COVID vaccination as a requirement for all surrogates—but we do document each candidate’s vaccine status during our thorough screening process.

 If having a surrogate who has received the COVID vaccine is important to you, we can absolutely filter your matches accordingly.

This gives you the ability to make informed decisions without alienating qualified surrogates who may have different health choices. Our role is to create a respectful, values-aligned match that supports everyone involved.

Learn more about our surrogate screening process to ensure you match with highly-qualified surrogates.

Will Asking for a Vaccinated Surrogate Limit Your Options?

It’s natural to wonder whether setting vaccine-related preferences could slow down the matching process or reduce the number of available candidates.

Fortunately, many of our active surrogate candidates have chosen to be vaccinated, especially those working closely with fertility clinics that recommend or require the vaccine.

Our team is skilled in identifying and matching you with a surrogate who has received the COVID vaccine—without compromising your timeline or overall surrogacy journey.

Why Some Intended Parents Prefer a Vaccinated Surrogate

At American Surrogacy, we help you build a detailed intended parent profile that outlines your values, preferences and priorities—including health-related criteria like COVID vaccination status.

This profile becomes the foundation for identifying surrogates who align with your expectations, lifestyle, and overall vision for the journey.

We can:

  • Include vaccine status as a matching filter
  • Help you clearly communicate your health values from the start
  • Offer education and resources to support informed decision-making
  • Facilitate transparent conversations between you and potential surrogates

We believe thoughtful, intentional matching leads to stronger partnerships—and a more confident, fulfilling surrogacy experience.

Learn more about how we can help you find a surrogate quickly so you can hold your baby in your arms sooner.

 How We Help You Create a Match That Reflects Your Values

At American Surrogacy, we believe your surrogate should reflect your values—not just medically, but personally and emotionally as well. If you prefer a surrogate who has received the COVID vaccine, we can:

  • Prioritize your match based on vaccine status
  • Provide information about each candidate’s health and vaccination history
  • Educate surrogates on medical guidance and vaccine benefits
  • Ensure transparency and shared expectations from the beginning

Our team works closely with both intended parents and surrogates to ensure everyone is on the same page—and that no one feels forced into decisions that don’t reflect their values.

Making the Right Choice for Your Family

Deciding whether to request a surrogate who has received the COVID vaccine is a deeply personal choice.

What matters most is working with an agency that respects your preferences, supports your values, and helps you feel confident every step of the way.

Contact American Surrogacy today to learn more about our matching process and how we can help you move forward safely and confidently.

Inducing Lactation for Surrogacy: How Intended Mothers Can Breastfeed

Learn how inducing lactation for surrogacy helps intended mothers breastfeed, bond, and plan feeding arrangements with confidence.

Breastfeeding your baby after surrogacy may seem out of reach—but it’s more possible than you think.

Many intended mothers have successfully induced lactation for surrogacy, giving them the chance to nourish their baby and experience the same intimate bond as parents who carried their child.

If you’re considering inducing lactation for surrogacy, our specialists at American Surrogacy can help you explore feeding arrangements with your surrogate during the contract stage. Fill out our form today to get quick support.

With the right preparation, medical guidance, and support, your body can produce milk—even without pregnancy.

What Is Inducing Lactation for Surrogacy?

Inducing lactation for surrogacy is the process of stimulating your body to make breast milk without having been pregnant.

By combining hormonal treatments, pumping, and ongoing support, you can prepare your body to provide milk for your baby once they arrive.

This process isn’t just about nutrition—it’s also about bonding. For many intended parents, breastfeeding is a powerful way to feel fully involved in their child’s earliest days.

How to Induce Lactation for Surrogacy: The Newman-Goldfarb Protocol

The most widely used method for inducing lactation for surrogacy is called the Newman-Goldfarb protocol. It was designed specifically for mothers who want to breastfeed but did not carry the pregnancy. Most lactation consultants are familiar with it.

The protocol includes two stages:

  • Hormonal preparation: Birth control pills mimic pregnancy, while a medication like metoclopramide boosts prolactin (the hormone responsible for milk production). This stage usually lasts several months to prepare breast tissue.
  • Pumping phase: About 6–8 weeks before your baby’s birth, you’ll begin pumping 8–12 times per day. This frequent stimulation signals to your body that it’s time to produce milk.

Note: In some countries, domperidone is used to support lactation, but it is not approved for use in the U.S. American parents typically use metoclopramide.

For more detailed guidance, La Leche League provides resources that can help you understand how this process works.

Is Induced Lactation Breastmilk as Good as Natural Breastmilk?

Yes—milk produced through induced lactation contains the same nutrients, antibodies, and growth factors that help protect and nourish your baby.

According to Folx Health, while it may take some time to reach full composition, induced breast milk provides the same essential benefits as traditional breastfeeding.

Benefits of Induced Lactation for Intended Parents

Wanting to breastfeed after surrogacy isn’t really about the nutrition (though that’s great too). It’s about so much more than that.

After watching someone else carry your baby for nine months, breastfeeding can feel like finally getting to be the mom in a really tangible way.

There’s something really special about that skin-to-skin contact and the bonding that happens during nursing. Your body releases oxytocin – the love hormone – which helps you and your baby connect.

After a surrogacy journey where you might have felt a bit on the sidelines, breastfeeding is something that’s just between you and your baby.

Considering the Cost of Medications for Inducing Lactation

The cost of inducing lactation for surrogacy varies depending on treatment length and insurance coverage. On average, families should consider:

  • Metoclopramide: $20–$60/month
  • Birth control pills: $15–$50/month (often covered by insurance)
  • Lactation consultant visits: Varies by provider
  • Breast pump rental or purchase: Hospital-grade pumps are most effective

While these expenses add to overall surrogacy costs, many families find them manageable with advance planning.

How Long Does it Take to Induce Lactation for Surrogacy?

The process usually takes 4–6 months:

  • Hormonal prep: 2–4 months
  • Pumping: 6–8 weeks before the baby’s arrival

Some parents notice milk production within days of pumping, while others take several weeks. Factors like age, medical history, and consistency with the protocol all play a role.

Challenges and Limitations to Consider

Inducing lactation for surrogacy can be amazing, but it’s not always smooth sailing. Not every mom ends up with a full milk supply, and some only make small amounts even when they do everything perfectly.

The medications can make you feel pretty crummy sometimes, nausea, tiredness, mood swings, stomach issues.

And honestly, it can be emotionally tough if things don’t go as planned. Some moms feel really disappointed or stressed if their milk supply doesn’t develop like they hoped.

How to Increase Breastmilk Supply When Inducing Lactation for Surrogacy

If your milk supply is lower than expected, try:

  • Pumping every 2–3 hours (including overnight)
  • Using “power pumping” sessions (10 minutes pumping, 10 minutes rest, repeated for an hour)
  • Ensuring your pump fits properly; hospital-grade pumps are most effective
  • Exploring natural supply boosters like oats or fenugreek—with your doctor’s approval

The Canadian Breastfeeding Foundation emphasizes consistency and equipment quality as keys to better results

Professional Guidance: Who Can Help?

You need expert professional support for inducing lactation for surrogacy.

Your can find a lactation specialist for surrogacy who’s an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) – that’s the gold standard.

These specialists really know their stuff and can give you personalized advice for your situation.

They’ll help you navigate the whole process and troubleshoot any issues that come up.

When you’re looking for a lactation specialist for surrogacy, make sure they’re IBCLC certified and have experience with induced lactation specifically.

Many of them do virtual appointments too, which is super convenient when you’re still in the preparation phase.

Alternatives if Inducing Lactation Isn’t Possible

If inducing lactation for surrogacy doesn’t work or doesn’t feel right, you still have other nourishing options:

  • Surrogate-provided milk: Some surrogates are willing to pump and supply breast milk.
  • Donor milk: Certified milk banks offer screened donor milk, though it can be costly.
  • Formula: A safe, reliable feeding option used by many families.

Many parents use a combination of these methods to meet their baby’s needs.

How American Surrogacy Supports Your Feeding Journey

At American Surrogacy, we understand that feeding choices are deeply personal. Our team helps you:

  • Discuss breast milk arrangements during your surrogacy contract (including whether your surrogate may pump after birth)
  • Connect with trusted lactation consultants experienced in inducing lactation for surrogacy
  • Explore all feeding options—induced lactation, surrogate-provided milk, donor milk, or formula—so you feel empowered to make the best choice for your family

Our specialists can answer your questions about breastfeeding and help ensure your feeding preferences are included in your surrogacy contract.

Reach out today to begin planning for the feeding journey that feels right for your family.


Finding a Surrogacy Lawyer Nearby: What Intended Parents Should Know

Find a surrogacy lawyer near you. Learn what to ask, why local expertise matters, and how American Surrogacy connects you to vetted attorneys.

Finding a qualified surrogacy lawyer is one of the most critical steps in your journey to parenthood. With the right legal representation, you can navigate complex state laws, secure your parental rights, and move forward with confidence.

The peace of mind that comes from having an experienced attorney ensures that your legal foundation is as strong as your hope for the future.

Start your journey today by contacting a surrogacy specialist today. We’ll connect you with a vetted surrogacy lawyer near you who understands your state’s laws and your unique needs.

Below, we’ll walk you through exactly how to find a surrogacy lawyer nearby, what questions to ask, why state-specific expertise matters, and how American Surrogacy’s attorney network can streamline this crucial step in your journey.

How to Find a Surrogacy Lawyer Near Me

Searching “surrogacy lawyer near me” is only the beginning. Because surrogacy law is highly specialized, you need an attorney with deep experience in reproductive law.

The right lawyer understands assisted reproduction, state-specific statutes, and parentage orders, giving you the protection a basic internet search can’t guarantee.

Focus your search through these trusted channels:

  • Professional Directories: Use the American Bar Association’s lawyer referral directory or your state bar association, filtering for “assisted reproductive technology” or “reproductive law.”
  • Agency Referrals: Agencies like American Surrogacy maintain a network of vetted attorneys who have proven expertise with surrogacy contracts, parentage orders, and state-specific requirements.

Why it matters: An attorney who excels in divorce or adoption may not understand gestational surrogacy. You need someone who practices this law regularly in your state.

The Role a Surrogacy Lawyer Plays in the Surrogacy Contract Process

Your lawyer is the architect of your legal protection. They will:

  • Draft and negotiate your surrogacy contract.
  • Ensure compliance with state-specific requirements.
  • Coordinate with your fertility clinic.
  • Guide you through parentage proceedings so your parental rights are recognized before or immediately after birth.

Because laws vary by state, having an attorney licensed in your jurisdiction is essential to avoid costly delays.

Learn more about the surrogacy legal process.

Do I need a lawyer for surrogacy?

Yes. Independent legal representation is required for all parties in surrogacy arrangements. Beyond this requirement, your lawyer protects your interests at every step—from contract negotiations to establishing legal parentage.

What type of lawyer handles surrogacy?
Specialized family lawyers or assisted reproductive technology (ART) attorneys. They must be licensed in your state and have experience with surrogacy-specific statutes and court procedures.

What should be in a surrogacy contract?

A strong surrogacy contract leaves no room for uncertainty. Your attorney will walk you through each element, ensuring that both your rights and your surrogate’s rights are fully protected.

The most common areas your contract should cover include:

  • Medical decision-making authority: Who can make decisions during pregnancy and delivery.
  • Financial responsibilities: Compensation for your surrogate, medical expenses, and additional costs.
  • Communication expectations: How updates will be shared and what level of contact is expected.
  • Contingency plans: Provisions for unexpected circumstances, such as medical complications.
  • Parental rights protection: Language that establishes you as the baby’s legal parents.
  • Boundaries and responsibilities: Clear definitions of roles for everyone involved.

When written by an experienced surrogacy lawyer, these provisions become enforceable protections that safeguard your journey.

Questions to Ask When Choosing a Surrogacy Attorney

The right questions during your consultation can reveal whether an attorney has the expertise and communication style you need. Key areas to explore include:

  • Experience: “How many surrogacy cases have you handled in the past two years?” and “What percentage of your practice focuses on reproductive law?”
  • Fees: Do they charge a flat fee or hourly rate? What does their quoted fee include, and what additional costs could come up?
  • Communication: What’s their preferred method of communication, and how quickly do they typically respond?
  • Case management: Will they personally handle your case, or delegate to associates?
  • Community connections: Do they regularly work with local surrogacy agencies and fertility clinics?

Most surrogacy attorneys charge between $3,000 and $7,000, covering contract drafting and parentage proceedings. While cost matters, the right fit often comes down to trust, responsiveness, and proven experience in surrogacy law.

State-by-State Differences in Surrogacy Law

Surrogacy laws vary significantly from state to state. Some jurisdictions allow pre-birth parentage orders, while others require post-birth adoption.

Compensation rules, court timelines, and even judge preferences can differ widely, shaping how quickly and smoothly your case moves forward.

This is why local expertise is so important. A surrogacy lawyer who practices regularly in your jurisdiction understands the nuances of local statutes and court systems, ensuring your parental rights are secured without unnecessary delays.

Is your state truly surrogacy-friendly? Find out now.

Agency vs. Independent Search for a Lawyer

If you conduct your own search, you’ll need to vet credentials, evaluate experience, and confirm that the attorney understands surrogacy law in your state—a process that can be both time-consuming and stressful.

By contrast, working with an agency like American Surrogacy connects you with attorneys who have already demonstrated competence in surrogacy cases.

These lawyers are familiar with agency processes, collaborate seamlessly with your support team, and often provide more competitive pricing thanks to their established relationships with agencies.

Choosing an agency-referred attorney gives you the confidence that you’re working with someone proven, not just someone you found online.

Can one lawyer represent both the surrogate and the intended parents?

No. Independent legal representation is required for both the intended parents and the surrogate.

This safeguard ensures fairness, prevents conflicts of interest, and protects the rights of everyone involved in the surrogacy process.

What’s the role of a surrogacy attorney vs. agency?

Surrogacy agencies and attorneys play different but connected roles. The agency manages matching, screening, and coordination, while the attorney focuses exclusively on legal protection and compliance.

When your agency refers you to independent counsel, you benefit from a partnership where both professionals are working toward the same goal: protecting your family’s journey and ensuring every step is completed correctly.

Why Agency-Connected Attorneys Are Preferable to In-House Legal

While some agencies employ in-house lawyers, this arrangement can create conflicts of interest between agency priorities and client rights. Independent attorneys recommended by your agency offer the best balance.

They’ve already proven themselves through successful cases, but because they are not on staff, their sole duty is to advocate for you.

This independence ensures you get personalized guidance, reliable communication, and continuity of legal support even after your initial surrogacy journey is complete.

How American Surrogacy Supports Your Legal Needs

At American Surrogacy, we take the guesswork out of finding the right surrogacy lawyer.

Our vetted attorney network includes professionals who focus exclusively on reproductive law, maintain excellent track records in surrogacy cases, and understand the unique aspects of our agency’s matching and support services.

Fill out our form today to get matched with a surrogacy lawyer near you and take the next step toward building your family.

With this support, you can move through your surrogacy journey with confidence, knowing your parental rights are fully protected.

Is a Double Embryo Transfer More Successful for Surrogacy?

Single embryo transfers provide safer outcomes with success rates close to double transfers—without the risks of multiples.

It’s natural to think that transferring two embryos might double your chances—or even lead to twins. But the truth is, double embryo transfer (DET) is not always the safest or most successful choice.

Research shows that single embryo transfer (SET) often provides better outcomes for both surrogates and babies.

Ready to explore your options? Contact a surrogacy specialist today and get guidance tailored to your family-building goals.

Whether you’re hoping for twins or simply want to shorten your journey, there are proven alternatives that protect your surrogate’s health while giving you the best chance of growing your family quickly.

Can You Do a Double Embryo Transfer in Surrogacy?

Yes, DET is possible, but most fertility specialists and surrogacy agencies recommend single embryo transfer as the gold standard.

  • Why: The American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) guidelines generally advise SET when high-quality embryos are available.
  • Who Decides: The choice ultimately rests with you, your surrogate, and your fertility team. Factors include embryo quality, medical history, and your surrogate’s comfort.
  • Surrogate Preference: Many surrogates favor SET because it reduces health risks and complications—a preference that’s both personal and medically sound.

Honest conversations about transfer preferences should happen early in the matching process to ensure everyone is aligned.

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Decisions about embryo transfer protocols should always be made in consultation with a qualified reproductive endocrinologist or fertility specialist.

Multiple Single Transfers  vs. Double Embryo Transfer: Success Rates, Risks, and Safer Alternatives

Studies show that transferring two embryos at once can lead to higher chances of a live birth compared to transferring just one—about 42% with double embryo transfer versus 27% with a single transfer.

However, the risk of twins or multiples is much higher with double transfers, occurring in nearly 29% of cases compared to only 2% with single transfers.

When doctors follow up a single transfer with an additional frozen single embryo transfer, the overall live birth rate (38%) ends up very close to that of a double transfer (42%), but with almost no risk of multiples.

These outcomes held true regardless of the woman’s age, fertility history or embryo quality.

Will Transferring Two Embryos Guarantee Twins?

Yes, double embryo transfer significantly raises the likelihood of twins by 27% but the outcomes can vary. Both embryos may implant, resulting in twins, or just one may implant, leading to a singleton pregnancy.

In some cases, neither embryo implants, which means the cycle fails, and there’s also the rare possibility that one embryo could split, creating a triplet pregnancy with very high risks.

Importantly, DET does not guarantee higher success rates, since high-quality single embryo transfers often achieve similar outcomes without the additional risks.

The Hidden Risks of Double Embryo Transfer for Surrogates

Multiple pregnancies create greater medical risks for surrogates:

  • Higher rates of gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and preterm labor.
  • Preterm birth in ~60% of twin pregnancies, compared to 10% in singletons.
  • Longer NICU stays and greater risk of developmental complications for babies.
  • Increased likelihood of C-section delivery and longer recovery times for surrogates.
  • Emotional and lifestyle impacts: more restrictions, bed rest, and strain on family life.

These risks explain why many surrogates prefer SET and why medical professionals increasingly recommend it.

Want Twins or a Quicker Path to Parenthood? Here’s a Safer Way

The longing for twins—or to complete your family sooner—is real. Fortunately, there’s a safer, smarter approach: dual staggered journeys.

A dual staggered journey allows intended parents to work with two surrogates on overlapping timelines, offering a safer and more efficient path to family building. The benefits include:

  • Safer pregnancies: Each surrogate carries a singleton, avoiding the higher risks of twin or triplet pregnancies.
  • Two chances at success: You increase the odds of at least one successful pregnancy instead of relying on a single transfer.
  • Shorter timeline: Children can be born close in age, giving you the experience of siblings growing up together.
  • Reduced emotional pressure: If one journey encounters complications, the other may still progress, offering reassurance and stability.
  • Better long-term value: While the upfront investment is higher, dual journeys are often more cost-effective than double embryo transfer or waiting through back-to-back surrogacy processes.

 While this requires more upfront investment, many families find it more cost-effective than risking DET or waiting through back-to-back journeys.

Dig deeper: Our dual staggered journeys

How We Provide The Ability to Work with Two Surrogates so You Can Grow Your Family Faster

At American Surrogacy, we’ve designed our dual staggered journeys to give families a safer alternative to double embryo transfer while still helping them grow faster.

This approach allows both women to carry single pregnancies—dramatically reducing health risks—while still making it possible for your children to be born close in age.

With our extensive surrogate network, most families find both matches in as little as 1 - 4 months.

We recommend beginning the second journey once the first surrogate reaches 20 weeks, which helps balance safety with efficiency.

We also personalize matches based on geography, communication style, and family preferences, ensuring strong, healthy relationships on both journeys.

 Take the Next Step Toward a Safer, Smarter Family-Building Journey

Building your family is one of the most important journeys of your life, and you deserve a path that is safe, effective, and designed for long-term success.

At American Surrogacy, we combine medical expertise with compassionate support to help you make confident decisions about embryo transfer and family building.

Don’t leave your family’s future to chance. Fill out our form today to speak with a surrogacy specialist and begin your journey toward parenthood.

How to Find Surrogacy Loans—and Choose the Right One for Your Family

Explore how to get loans for surrogacy, compare lenders, and find out how American Surrogacy supports your journey with trusted partners.

You don’t have to put your dream of becoming a parent on hold because of finances.

With the right surrogacy loan, you can make this journey achievable — without draining your savings or delaying your timeline.

Learn more about how you can afford surrogacy and have the family you’ve always dreamed of.

Whether you’re just starting to explore surrogacy or are ready to match with a surrogate, this guide will walk you through your best financing options — and how American Surrogacy can help you find the right loan for your family’s future.

Where Can We Get Loans for Surrogacy?

There are two primary types of lenders offering loans for surrogacy:

  • Fertility-specific lenders: Companies that specialize in reproductive health financing and understand the surrogacy process.
  • Traditional lenders: Banks, credit unions, or online platforms offering general-purpose personal loans.

Each option comes with pros and cons. The best choice for you depends on your credit profile, loan amount, and whether you need support tailored to surrogacy-specific costs and timing.

Fertility Financing Companies for Surrogacy Loans

Fertility lenders often offer the most surrogacy-friendly features — like payment schedules that match your agency and medical billing timeline.

Top providers:

  • Sunfish: American Surrogacy’s partner lender, Sunfish offers surrogacy-specific loans with terms of 2–7 years, competitive rates, and flexible repayment options.
  • CapexMD: A leader in medical financing, CapexMD works with a wide range of credit profiles and understands the complexities of surrogacy costs.
  • Future Family: Offers fertility loans plus concierge-style services. Personalized loans are tailored to your treatment plan, with additional support for LGBTQ+ families.

Why choose a fertility lender? They’re often more understanding of your journey and may offer deferments, flexible disbursement, and empathetic customer support.

Personal Loans for Surrogacy: Banks, Credit Unions, and Online Options

Traditional personal loans are another path to funding surrogacy. These loans usually offer fixed interest rates, predictable payments, and fast access to funds.

Common Sources:

  • Banks like PNC may offer fertility-specific loans or personal loans
  • Credit unions with member-friendly rates
  • Online lenders such as SoFi, Marcus, and LendingClub

Key Benefits:

  • Lump-sum distribution gives you full control over spending.
  • Competitive rates available for borrowers with strong credit.
  • Wide range of loan amounts — from $10,000 to $100,000.

Unlike fertility lenders, traditional lenders may not offer support aligned with surrogacy-specific billing cycles or milestones.

Other Types of Surrogacy Loans

Loans for Surrogacy if You Have Bad Credit

Even with a lower credit score, you still have options for financing surrogacy — though your interest rates and loan terms may differ.

Common options if you have low credit:

  • Co-Signed Loans: Partnering with a trusted relative or friend can unlock lower rates.
  • Credit Unions: Often more flexible than big banks, especially if you’re an existing member.
  • Unsecured Loans: Some lenders may offer unsecured loans. These loans don’t require collateral but may carry higher interest rates and shorter terms.

Tip: Improve your chances by reducing other debts before applying, or explore credit-builder loans if you’re planning ahead.

LGBT Surrogacy Loans and Grants

Intended parents in LGBTQ+ relationships have access to the same surrogacy loans as any other couple.

Whether you apply with a partner or as a single parent, lenders like Sunfish, Future Family, and CapexMD evaluate your application based on financial eligibility, not family structure.

Several nonprofit organizations offer grants tailored to LGBTQ+ couples and individuals pursuing parenthood through surrogacy.

 Men Having Babies offers a Gay Parenting Assistance Program (GPAP) to reduce surrogacy costs for gay men through discounts and cash grants.

If you identify as LGBTQ+ and are pursuing surrogacy, these grants can supplement loans and help close the funding gap — no repayment required.

What to Know Before Taking Out a Surrogacy Loan

Before choosing a loan for surrogacy, make sure you understand these key details:

  • Interest Rates: Range from 6%–20% APR. Fixed rates = predictable payments.
  • Terms: Longer repayment = lower monthly payments, but higher total interest.
  • Fees: Watch for origination fees, late charges, or early payoff penalties.
  • Eligibility: Based on credit score, income, and debt-to-income ratio.
  • Budgeting: Plan not just for pregnancy — but for the increased expenses after your baby arrives.

Alternatives to Loans for Surrogacy

Not every family chooses to take out a loan. These alternatives may help reduce or eliminate the need to borrow:

  • Fertility Grants: Awards from $2,000–$10,000 from organizations like Baby Quest and Tinina Q. Cade Foundation.
  • Employer Benefits: Ask HR about surrogacy coverage or fertility stipends.
  • Fundraising: GoFundMe, family loans, or community events can help offset costs.
  • HSA/FSA Funds: Some medical expenses may be eligible for tax-advantaged coverage.

Is Financing Surrogacy Worth It?

For most intended parents, the answer is yes.

Surrogacy loans provide the opportunity to start your family now — not years from now. The peace of mind, structure, and momentum they offer often outweigh the cost of interest.

Financing allows you to:

  • Start sooner
  • Preserve savings
  • Protect your financial future
  • Plan monthly payments with predictability

When you hold your baby for the first time, that monthly payment becomes more than worth it.

How American Surrogacy Supports Your Financing Plan

At American Surrogacy, we understand that the cost of surrogacy can feel overwhelming — and we’re here to make the financial path clearer, safer, and more achievable.

 Partnership with Sunfish: Expert Financing, Tailored for Surrogacy

We’ve partnered with Sunfish, a trusted fertility financing provider, to help our families access loans designed specifically for the surrogacy process. With terms built around typical surrogacy milestones, Sunfish offers:

  • Competitive interest rates
  • Flexible repayment options
  • Fertility-aware customer service
  • Loan disbursements timed to agency and clinic payments

Because they understand the unique structure of surrogacy costs, Sunfish offers a smoother, more supportive financing experience than many general lenders.

Financial Protection Through Our Limited Risk Program

In addition to loan guidance, we offer our Limited Risk Program, which provides built-in protection for your surrogacy investment.

This program is designed to minimize your financial exposure if unexpected complications arise during your journey.

Protect your investment with our Limited Risk Program

It’s one more way we help ensure that your finances are secure — so you can focus on what matters most: becoming a parent.

Take the First Step Toward Affording Surrogacy

Finding the right loan for surrogacy isn’t just about interest rates — it’s about choosing a financing strategy that supports your family’s future with confidence and care.

Contact American Surrogacy to start your financing plan.

Whether you’re comparing lenders, calculating your budget, or exploring our Limited Risk Program, we’re here to guide you.

How Long Are You On Meds Before Embryo Transfer in Surrogacy?

The medical phase before the embryo transfer for surrogacy is a vital piece to the puzzle. Here’s what it can look like.

Feeling nervous about post placement contact with the birth family is one of the most common concerns adoptive parents share—and these worries are completely valid.

Surrogates typically take medication before embryo transfer for 3 to 6 weeks, though individual timelines may vary based on your body’s response and cycle synchronization needs.

Get answers about the medical process timeline for surrogates today when you fill out our form.

Understanding what to expect during this medication phase helps you feel confident and prepared for your surrogacy journey.

Disclaimer:This content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

How Long Are Surrogates on Medications Before Embryo Transfer?

How long you’ll be on medication before embryo transfer depends on several factors specific to your situation. Most surrogates begin their medication protocol 3 to 6 weeks before the scheduled transfer date.

Your fertility clinic creates a personalized medication schedule based on your menstrual cycle, how your body responds to hormones, and the intended parents’ timeline.

Some surrogates may need a shorter preparation period if their body responds quickly, while others might require additional time to achieve optimal uterine lining thickness.

The medication before embryo transfer serves a vital purpose: preparing your uterus for a successful embryo transfer.

This careful timing coordination ensures the best possible environment for pregnancy.

Essential Medications Surrogates Take Before Transfer

Birth control pills often start your medication protocol, helping synchronize your cycle with the intended parents’ timeline. This synchronization is fundamental to the entire process and typically begins several weeks before other medications.

Lupron

Lupron suppresses your natural ovarian function, allowing doctors to control your hormone levels precisely.

You might experience mild menopausal symptoms like hot flashes or headaches, but these side effects are temporary and manageable.

Estrogen

Estrogen medications build up your uterine lining and come in various forms including pills, patches, or injections. Your doctor monitors your estrogen levels through regular blood tests and adjusts dosages as needed to achieve optimal lining thickness.

Progesterone

Progesterone supports embryo implantation and early pregnancy maintenance.

This medication before embryo transfer comes as intramuscular injections, vaginal suppositories, or gel applications. If pregnancy occurs, progesterone continues through the first trimester.

Concerned about needles? Learn pain management techniques for before, during and after injections for surrogacy.

Monitoring and Adjustments During the Medication Phase

Regular blood tests monitor your hormone levels to ensure medication before embryo transfer is working effectively. These tests help your medical team adjust dosages and timing for optimal results.

Transvaginal ultrasounds measure your uterine lining thickness, with the goal of achieving at least 8-10 millimeters before transfer. Your doctor tracks this measurement throughout your medication cycle to determine transfer readiness.

Medication adjustments are common and expected during this process. Your fertility team may modify dosages, timing, or medication types based on your body’s response. These changes optimize your preparation and improve transfer success rates.

American Surrogacy coordinates with your clinic to ensure seamless communication throughout this process.

Learn more about the surrogacy medical process.

What If the Transfer Timeline Changes?

Transfer timelines sometimes change due to various factors, and this flexibility often improves success rates. Your uterine lining might need additional time to reach optimal thickness, or the intended parents may need schedule adjustments.

Medical teams prioritize giving embryos the best chance for successful implantation, even if it means extending your medication before embryo transfer period.

These delays typically occur for important medical reasons and don’t negatively impact pregnancy outcomes.

Many successful surrogates have experienced timeline changes without affecting their journey’s success. Trust that your medical team’s decisions prioritize both your health and the pregnancy’s viability.

Common Questions Surrogates Ask About Medications

“Are the shots going to hurt?”

Progesterone injections are often surrogates’ biggest concern, but they become manageable with practice.

Many partners learn to administer these shots, and techniques like ice application before injection or heat afterward can minimize discomfort.

“What happens if I forget to take something?”

If you forget to take medication before embryo transfer, contact your clinic immediately. Medical teams handle missed doses regularly and will provide specific instructions for your situation.

Don’t panic—they’re prepared to help you get back on track.

“What kind of side effects should I expect?”

Side effects typically resemble PMS symptoms including mood changes, bloating, breast tenderness, and fatigue. These effects are temporary and resolve once your medication protocol ends.

“Can I still work out?”

Exercise guidelines vary by clinic, but most surrogates can continue light to moderate physical activity during their medication phase.

Follow your specific clinic’s recommendations for the safest approach.

How American Surrogacy Supports You Through the Process

Here’s what sets us apart: we get that this whole medication thing can feel overwhelming, so we’re with you every single step of the way.

  • We Handle the Coordination: We stay in constant contact with your fertility clinic so you don’t have to worry about miscommunications or feeling lost in the shuffle.
  • You Get Paid What You Deserve: We believe surrogates should get top-dollar compensation because what you’re doing is priceless. All the time you spend on meds, appointments, and everything else—it’s all valued.
  • Expert Support: Our team knows this process inside and out. We’re here for questions, reassurance, celebration—whatever you need.
  • Great Matches: We take our time helping you find intended parents who truly appreciate what you’re doing. These relationships often turn into lifelong friendships.

With our support, you can feel confident that you’re making someone’s dream come true while getting the respect and compensation you absolutely deserve.

Ready to start your surrogacy journey with expert support? Fill out our form today to hear from a specialist who understands the medication process and can answer all your questions.

Disclaimer: This content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. All medical decisions should be made in consultation with a licensed healthcare provider or reproductive specialist familiar with your personal medical history.

Let’s Talk Surrogacy: Facing Setbacks and Finding Joy

Real conversations with surrogates, intended parents and industry professionals sharing their experiences and insights from the surrogacy journey.

In this episode of Let’s Talk Surrogacy, we sit down with Madie—mom of three, two-time surrogate and self-described optimist—to unpack a journey she sums up in one word: unique.

Madie opens up about the inspiration that first led her to surrogacy, the challenges she faced along the way, and the unforgettable moments that made it all worthwhile.

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Episode Highlights

Madie recalls the emotional rollercoaster of her first journey, the lessons she learned from setbacks, and the joy of finally helping a family welcome their baby.

She also opens up about the challenges of later matches, including the stress of going independent, and why she now believes agency support makes all the difference.

Finally, Madie reflects on carrying for two dads and the unforgettable moment of watching them meet their daughter for the first time.

Key Takeaways

  • Agencies provide better support than independent arrangements
  • Embryo grades don’t predict success
  • Failed transfers don’t mean the surrogate is “damaged goods”
  • Trust your instincts and don’t give up

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Our Surrogate Ghosted Us: How to Restart Your Journey with an Agency

Your surrogate ghosted you without warning? Learn why surrogates stop communicating and get actionable steps to restart your journey.

Getting matched with a surrogate feels like your dream of becoming parents is finally happening. You’ve been texting, sharing hopes, building a genuine connection. Then suddenly, radio silence strikes.

Understanding why communication breakdowns happen and knowing your next steps can help you navigate this situation.

With the right professional support, you can get matched with a committed surrogate in 1 - 4 months. Connect with a surrogacy specialist today.

What Does It Mean if a Surrogate “Ghosts”?

When a surrogate stops all communication without explanation, she has “ghosted” you. This goes beyond normal response delays.

Normal communication gaps happen—your surrogate might need a day or two to respond due to work or family obligations. When days stretch into weeks without response, especially during critical moments like medical appointments, you’re dealing with genuine ghosting.

The timing matters. Early-stage ghosting involves fewer legal complications than communication breakdowns after contracts are signed.

Why Might a Surrogate Stop Responding?

Understanding why your surrogate went quiet might help you process what happened, though it doesn’t make it less frustrating.

  • Life happens. She might be dealing with unexpected family issues, health problems, or relationship changes that make continuing impossible. Sometimes these things develop fast.
  • Emotions get overwhelming. Surrogacy is emotionally intense, and some surrogates—especially first-timers—might not realize how overwhelming it gets. They might feel anxious about medical procedures, legal commitments, or the relationship dynamics.
  • Practical stuff changes. Job loss, moving, or family shifts might make surrogacy feel impossible. Sometimes surrogates realize they weren’t ready for the time commitment and lifestyle changes.
  • Communication feels awkward. If she feels you’re checking in too much or she’s uncomfortable with your communication style, she might withdraw instead of talking about it.

Processing the Emotional Impact

When your surrogate stopped responding, the devastation goes beyond delayed timelines. You’ve invested tremendous emotional energy, hope, and trust.

Betrayal runs deep because surrogacy requires vulnerability. You shared personal dreams and trusted her with your deepest desire. Her disappearance feels like rejection of both the arrangement and your worthiness to become parents.

You’re grieving multiple losses: invested time and energy, expected timelines, and the envisioned future. Anxiety about next steps overwhelms—finding another surrogate, additional delays, trusting the process again.

Anger is natural when abandoned during vulnerability. These emotions are valid and deserve processing time.

Legal and Contractual Considerations

Your legal options depend on timing and whether you have signed contracts.

Without contracts, you typically have minimal legal recourse. No binding agreements mean little foundation for compelling responses or seeking damages.

With contracts, your position strengthens. Well-drafted agreements include communication requirements and breakdown procedures. Many require mediation before termination.

Financial considerations vary by contract terms and timing. Comprehensive agreements explain expense handling if arrangements end unexpectedly, protecting you from bearing all costs.

What to Do if Your Surrogate Ghosts You

How you handle the immediate situation can significantly impact resolution or protecting yourself later.

  • Save everything. Keep all texts, emails, call records, and social media screenshots. This becomes crucial for legal action or proving communication attempts.
  • Try different contact methods. Call, text, and email, but don’t bombard her. A calm, concerned message works better than demanding immediate responses.
  • Contact your agency if working with one. Good agencies know what to do and might reach your surrogate through alternative contacts.
  • Involve your lawyer when necessary. If contracts exist and she remains unresponsive, your attorney can send formal correspondence. Legal communication sometimes gets responses when personal messages don’t.
  • Stay off social media. Posting publicly can complicate legal proceedings and hurt your surrogacy community reputation.

How Agencies Prevent & Resolve Surrogate Ghosting

Working with a good surrogacy agency makes ghosting much less likely, though nothing’s guaranteed.

  • Thorough screening is the first defense. Quality agencies thoroughly vet potential surrogates through psychological evaluations, medical checks, and background screening.
  • Clear communication rules set expectations with regular check-ins and response times. This prevents misunderstandings and maintains contact throughout the process.
  • Ongoing support helps address issues before they become ghosting. Case managers spot communication problems early and intervene.
  • Financial protection safeguards your investment. Many agencies offer programs protecting against surrogate withdrawal.
  • Smart matching increases compatibility by considering personalities, communication styles, and expectations.

While ghosting can still happen with agencies, it’s much less common than going alone. When it does occur, agencies have established procedures to protect you and help you move forward quickly.

Starting Over: Finding a Reputable Surrogacy Agency After a Bad Experience

Getting ghosted doesn’t end your dream—it means you need better support moving forward.

If you’ve been doing surrogacy independently, this shows why professional help matters. Good agencies thoroughly screen surrogates not just medically and legally, but psychologically for readiness and commitment. This dramatically reduces communication breakdowns and disappearing acts.

Your path to parenthood deserves better protection. The right agency transforms surrogacy from risky solo adventure into supported, structured process designed to minimize setbacks.

How American Surrogacy Can Help You Find a New Surrogate Quickly

When your surrogate stopped responding, time becomes critical. Every delay extends your journey to parenthood and increases emotional stress.

At American Surrogacy, we can provide you with a match in an average of 1 - 4 months months by maintaining an active database of pre-screened, committed surrogates ready to match with intended parents.

Our thorough vetting process means we can quickly identify suitable candidates who align with your needs and preferences.

We understand the urgency and work to minimize delays, often facilitating new matches within weeks rather than months.

Learn more about how we can help you become parents sooner. You’ve waited long enough.

How Much Does it Cost to Restart The Surrogacy Process After A Surrogate Backs Out?

Surrogacy typically costs $100,000 - $200,000+ , making financial protection crucial when relationships fail. Restart costs vary based on your previous arrangement and existing protections.

Independent arrangements offer minimal protection. You may lose legal fees, medical expenses, and compensation with little recourse, potentially doubling your total surrogacy investment when starting over.

At American Surrogacy, our programs include pre-screening and built-in financial protection within our costs.

While the investment is significant, our comprehensive approach—including unlimited matching guarantees—makes the protection worthwhile and often saves money compared to multiple independent attempts.

Early-stage ghosting limits losses to consultation fees. Communication breakdown after medical procedures results in substantially higher losses, making agency protection even more valuable.

How American Surrogacy Protects Intended Parents

We understand your parenthood path is too important to leave vulnerable to communication breakdowns. Our comprehensive approach provides multiple protection layers.

  • Pre-screening: Our pre-screening goes beyond basic requirements. Every surrogate undergoes extensive psychological evaluation, medical screening, and background verification, identifying uncommitted individuals and reducing breakdown risks.
  • Limited Risk Program: Built-in financial protection through our Limited Risk program ensures no additional fees for unlimited matching when matches fall through—removing make-or-break pressure from individual relationships.
  • Case management: Our case management team provides ongoing support, recognizing early warning signs and resolving issues before complete breakdown.

Our multi-layered approach dramatically reduces risks while providing clear resolution pathways. Your journey deserves this professional protection and comprehensive support.

Learn more about our surrogacy programs and how we can match you with a surrogate quickly while protecting you financially.

Moving Forward with a Surrogate Who’s on the Same Page

When your surrogate stopped responding, it felt like your parenthood dreams were shattered. While this setback is painful and frustrating, it doesn’t define your journey or determine your future success.

Your dream of holding your baby is still achievable—it just requires the professional guidance and security you deserve.

Ready to restart your journey with proper protection? Contact American Surrogacy today to learn how we can help you find a committed surrogate quickly and safely.